What every heroine has learned

This post is part of the General Conference Odyssey. This week covers the Young Womens Session of the April 2010 Conference.

I liked Elder Uchtdorf's talk, "Your Happily Ever After," when I first heard it. "That's so cute for the young women," I thought. "That's a topic they will listen and relate to." But, oddly enough, I think I relate to it even more now than I did then. I loved this:

His love for you is so great that He has granted you this earthly life as a precious gift of “once upon a time,” complete with your own true story of adventure, trial, and opportunities for greatness, nobility, courage, and love. And, most glorious of all, He offers you a gift beyond price and comprehension. Heavenly Father offers to you the greatest gift of all—eternal life—and the opportunity and infinite blessing of your own “happily ever after.”

It reminds me of the Elder Christofferson quote I read earlier this week, where he talked about how Heavenly Father may or may not grant us blessings in the ways we expect, and then said, “In the end, it is the blessing of a close and abiding relationship with the Father and the Son that we seek.” I've been thinking about that all week. Our whole life—God's whole plan—is designed to allow us this "close and abiding relationship." Everything we experience gives us the chance for it. And, if we do exercise our agency to seek that relationship, all the hard things we encounter along the way will be worth it.

"But," Elder Uchtdorf says,

such a blessing does not come without a price. It is not given simply because you desire it. It comes only through understanding who you are and what you must become in order to be worthy of such a gift.

And (as I feel I'm learning more every year), that understanding only comes when we are tested and pushed to our limits.

This part touched me so much:

My dear young sisters, you need to know that you will experience your own adversity. None is exempt. You will suffer, be tempted, and make mistakes. You will learn for yourself what every heroine has learned: through overcoming challenges come growth and strength.

Something about that "what every heroine has learned" makes me feel such a longing to be one of those heroines. One of those women who is serene and peaceful and joyful through her trust in God. Someone like Marjorie Hinckley or Julie Beck or any number of women who have mentored me over the years, whose faith shows in her countenance and whose strength radiates outward to bolster the people around her. But it's so counterintuitive to think that challenges and trials made those women who they are! I feel like my challenges are just beating me down and making me haggard and fragile and cynical and distressed, not making me serene and beautiful and heroic! But I guess I just have to keep pushing through. This mortal life is the complicated and messy part of the plot. I have to trust that the loose ends will tie up beautifully and lead to that "Happily Ever After" Elder Uchtdorf is promising:

…The day will come when you turn the final pages of your own glorious story; there you will read and experience the fulfillment of those blessed and wonderful words: “And they lived happily ever after.” Of this I testify in the holy name of Jesus Christ.

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Daisies

Our neighbors' daisies are out and, as we aren't in Oregon at the moment, it's the closest we've got to daisy fields! A few quick pictures, then, of this almost-16-year-old Daisy girl in her natural habitat (and a few others who happened to be passing by…)

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Your testimony will never leave your children

This post is part of the General Conference Odyssey. This week covers the Sunday Afternoon Session of the April 2010 Conference.

It seemed like every talk in this session was urging parents to just keep teaching their children about Jesus! Not an unusual topic, of course, but notable for its frequency here. I'll just pull out a few of my favorite quotes. Elder Hales said:

It is our imperative duty to help youth understand and believe the gospel in a deeply personal way. We can teach them to walk in the light, but that light cannot be borrowed. They must earn it for themselves. They must obtain their own light of testimony directly from the source of spiritual light—God Himself—through prayer and study and pondering. They must understand who they are and who Heavenly Father wants them to become. How do we help them?

When we have a family home evening, a family council, or a meaningful gospel conversation with our children, we have the opportunity to look into their eyes and tell them that we love them and that Heavenly Father loves them. In these sacred settings, we can also help them understand, deep in their hearts, who they are and how fortunate they are to have come to this earth and to our home and to participate in the covenants we have taken in the temple to be a family forever. In every interaction we share, we demonstrate the principles and blessings of the gospel.…

And I loved this too, from later in his talk:

The greatest rescue, the greatest activation will be in our homes. If someone in your family is wandering in strange paths, you are a rescuer, engaged in the greatest rescue effort the Church has ever known. I testify from personal experience: There is no failure except in giving up. It is never too early or too late to begin. Do not worry about what has happened in the past. Pick up the phone. Write a note. Make a visit. Extend the invitation to come home. Don’t be afraid or embarrassed. Your child is Heavenly Father’s child. You are about His work. He has promised to gather His children, and He is with you.

Elder Bradley D. Foster on the same theme:

With the help of priesthood leaders, parents must continue to go back and find their lost ones, assuring them there will always be a “home” within the family and the Church, waiting for their return. We never know when a heart may be turned. We never know when a soul may be weary and worn out by the world. When that happens, it seems our children almost always turn first toward Mother.

And Elder Neil L. Andersen too:

Although there may be times when a child does not listen with a believing heart, your testimony of Jesus will remain in his or her mind and soul.

He also said my favorite thing of all:

If a child is not listening, don’t despair. Time and truth are on your side. At the right moment, your words will return as if from heaven itself. Your testimony will never leave your children.

As you reverently speak about the Savior—in the car, on the bus, at the dinner table, as you kneel in prayer, during scripture study, or in late-night conversations—the Spirit of the Lord will accompany your words.

As you do your best, the testimony of Jesus will gently distill upon your children’s hearts.

Oh, I hope so. I hope so. I want to memorize every word of that and say it to myself every day! It is very difficult to believe sometimes, with much seeming evidence to the contrary. There’s always more I can do and could have done to teach my kids, and knowing that unfortunately makes me less likely to believe and find hope from words like this. However, I am consciously going to try and cling to them, reassuring myself over and over if I need to. "Doing my best" of course includes an ongoing effort to do better…but it also means God makes up for my shortcomings, and is able to do His work in spite of whatever mistakes I make! That truth is worth clinging to!

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Woven into the very fiber of your being

This post is part of the General Conference Odyssey. This week covers the Sunday Morning Session of the April 2010 Conference.

A couple weeks ago I wrote about how our easy access to the scriptures and the words of the prophets might be a compensating blessing for the difficult challenges of our day. Elder Scott talks in this session about another thing that can help fortify us, something I wouldn't have thought of: a testimony of Jesus Christ's atonement. It makes sense, of course, because His atonement is the central part of God's plan, and it makes possible all the things we need—revelation, access to the spirit, access to heavenly power, etc. But I just hadn't thought about that specific testimony being this valuable to us:

As you remember the Resurrection and the price paid and the gift given through the Atonement, ponder what the scriptures teach of those sacred events. Your personal witness of their reality will be strengthened. They must be more than principles you memorize. They must be woven into the very fiber of your being as a powerful bulwark against the rising tide of abomination that infects our world.

Then Elder Scott goes even further:

I realize that no mortal mind can adequately conceive, nor can human tongue appropriately express, the full significance of all that Jesus Christ has done for our Heavenly Father’s children through His Atonement. Yet it is vital that we each learn what we can about it. The Atonement is that essential ingredient of our Father in Heaven’s plan of happiness without which that plan could not have been activated. Your understanding of the Atonement and the insight it provides for your life will greatly enhance your productive use of all of the knowledge, experience, and skills you acquire in mortal life.

I think that's so interesting. Knowing about Jesus' atonement will enhance ALL our knowledge, experience, and skills? Music? Writing? Getting along with difficult people? Cooking? Time management? I guess it's the same thing as "not at any time have I given you a law which was temporal"—where my mortal mind sees a disconnect between "regular everyday things" and "things the atonement of Christ can help me with," a greater perspective finds they are one and the same. It makes me want to do better at consciously inviting Jesus Christ into the little details of my daily life, and seeking to find the spiritual purpose behind the challenges Heavenly Father has allowed in my life.

I also think this is a powerful promise about how sharing our testimonies of Christ's Atonement will bless our children: 

As you ponder—not just read but ponder and meditate—on scriptural passages, the power of the Holy Ghost will distill truths in your mind and heart as a secure foundation in this uncertain time in which we live. As parents, prepare your children for the challenges they will encounter. Teach them truth, encourage them to live it, and they will be all right no matter how severely the world is shaken.

As parents, we do have to know and internalize these truths, so we can teach them. And we have to be good examples and share our testimonies freely with our children. But it's interesting that he doesn't say "make them live it" or "ensure that they live it" or even "don't let them stop living it"—because, obviously, we can't. But we can "encourage" them to live as if the Atonement of Jesus Christ matters, by letting it matter to us. We can "encourage" them to seek His help in all things, by seeking it ourselves. We can "encourage" them to get to know their Savior by radiating His love. And if we do that, leaving the rest up to God, Elder Scott promises "they will be all right no matter how severely the world is shaken." I think that's amazing!

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Poppies

 

The kids and I took a little field trip up Brigham City way to get milkshakes, play on a new playground, and see the poppy fields in Mantua. It's the first time I've ever left the highway while going through Sardine Canyon, and I've always wondered about the towns there. It was a beautiful day! 

Daisy and Junie reading the same book

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