Baking with Ken

This is another of the short essays I wrote for this year's homeschool writing group with Malachi and Daisy. I always feel like I could make a sacrament meeting talk out of this story…😄
I received the book “Flour, Water, Salt, Yeast” as a gift. It was an impressive tome; a Bible of sourdough baking, written by the owner of a famous San Francisco bakery. I tried to like it. I loved baking bread, after all, and had been doing so since I was a wee tot making tiny loaves in the tiny loaf pans my mother bought to encourage my homemaking skills. And the pictures were beautiful. But the author, the improbably named Ken Forkish, described the most banal of bread tasks with breathless exactness, and it seemed a little much. Did one really need a “technique” for mixing the dough? I wondered. (“The only truly reliable method is with the bare hands, using the non-dominant hand as a spatula to clean the other after each fold,” said Ken Forkish.) After the fourth time the book mentioned testing the pH of your water for optimum acidity, I tossed it aside in disgust.

“He makes bread baking sound like rocket science,” I complained to my husband. “He’s going to scare two-thirds of his audience away and make the other third incurably smug.” It seemed ridiculous to treat the process with such awe and sacredness, especially for a book whose whole premise had been the simplicity of bread made from only “flour, water, salt, yeast.” 

I continued to make bread, and experimenting with the mix and method for my sourdough, but now I did it with a constant awareness of all the things I’d been ignoring my whole life: precise water temperature, folding technique, proofing baskets, bench resting time, oven spring. “Hah!” I’d think from time to time. “No wonder so many people get scared off from the perfectly simple process of making bread!”

It was about two years later that I ran into a breach in my routine; a scheduling conflict that left me with bread ready to bake but no time to bake it. I found a blog post that described a slightly different method of proofing—what I’d usually called the “second rise,” though with this bread it didn’t involve much actual rising—which gave the shaped loaves 24-48 hours in the refrigerator before baking. It solved my problem, so I tried it, and was pleased to find that the resulting bread was improved as well. It had a more open crumb and seemed to lift better in the oven (that “oven spring” I’d heard of). I changed my process, and now that I was doing this long refrigerator proof, I realized that proofing baskets would simplify the process considerably. I bought some a little sheepishly.

With the cold dough, scoring the bread suddenly became easier, and I felt a need to upgrade my scoring technique a little. Rather than one long slash, three sideways slashes seemed to give the bread a better shape, and I could even add decorative slashes between the lines.

Now that the long rise was happening in the fridge, I needed a bigger dough bucket to contain the first rise on the counter. I bought a big square industrial container with volume markings on the side, and quickly discovered how useful those markings were in estimating at a glance how much the dough had risen, or how long it had left to rise. I remembered, with a little stab of discomfort, how Ken Forkish had sung the praises of containers with volume markings, but I pushed the feeling aside.

I had been noticing every now and then that there would be a little pocket of unmixed flour in one of my loaves. It was annoying to bite into one of these pockets, especially when the rest of the bread-eating experience was going so well, and I tried to start being extra vigilant about getting my spoon all the way in and through the dough as I was mixing. It was hard, though, because the flour clumps would hide beneath the bowl of the spoon or in the corners of the container. Sometimes I’d be completely positive I’d mixed everything well, but when I went to shape the bread I’d be horrified to find an an entire section of the dough still stiff and crumbly with unmixed flour. I started reaching into the dough bucket to seek out these stiff spots and eliminate them. If I rubbed them between my fingers, the flour would soften and incorporate into the wetter dough around it. Pretty soon I found that it saved effort to just start with this method—my hand could find dry spots much more easily than the spoon, and then it could immediately rub and fold the dough much more efficiently than could a spoon. The dough was always quite shaggy and clumpy at first, so it stuck to my hand, but even with that inconvenience it worked better than a spoon.

It wasn’t until I was describing the process to a friend that I heard myself. “Go into each corner of the bucket with a bare hand,” I said. “It’s the only way to really feel that the dough is right. You can use your other hand as a sort of spatula,” I said, and the words echoed strangely in my ears, as if someone else were saying them. As if Ken Forkish were saying them.
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Bathed in help even during turbulent times

This post is part of the General Conference Odyssey. This week covers the Saturday Morning Session of the April 2010 Conference. 
We started a new decade of General Conference sessions! This is the last full decade we have left and then we'll start on the 2020's! 

There were so many good talks in this session, and each of them seemed to have some pertinent advice for my challenges right now. I particularly liked Sister Julie B. Beck's talk “And upon the Handmaids in Those Days Will I Pour Out My Spirit.” It reminded me of something else I read lately by one of my favorite Catholic writers and mothers, Leila Lawler. She was writing about the concept, much fretted over in some circles these days, of the disproportionate "mental load" women supposedly bear:
The woman of the house indeed has a lot on her mind, because her mind encompasses every facet of life instead of one circumscribed slice of it. She cares for her home, the bodies in it, the neighborhood outside it. She is building the one place upon which it all depends.

Casting this effort as an intolerable burden on her, emphasizing that she is not paid for it, and inciting in her a chafing rebellion against it, undermines her value.

Frankly, the voices of “mental load” amplify narcissism, seeking to convince the wife that she is the only one who is thinking about anything! It is a psy-op, a disruptive tactic.

At the same time, they insidiously cast doubt on her strength for the task. How belittling!

It’s the spirit of contempt, not of cooperation; it creates an atmosphere of conflict, not of collaboration. It hits at the heart of the marital bond of complementary love.

Because after all, everyone has a lot on his mind, not only the mother. The husband relies on his wife to juggle certain — most — details because he is quietly, often stoically, handling others. The children require a world of stability, maintained by a loving heart, so they can be free for the adventure of learning, well, everything.

Making life good for these loved ones is precisely the wonderful and completely voluntary path we housewives undertook when we said “I do.” That it entails work should not come as a surprise.…

Why would we complain about keeping common sense in the world? Get a calendar, write things on the blackboard, organize some of your things, smile as you remind about picking up milk.

Your job is a great one — don’t listen to the serpents who wish to disturb your garden.
I love that reminder not to dwell on "unfairness" and whether or not we should "have to" bear the burdens of wifehood and motherhood. Does focusing on that make anyone happier? Does it lead to clearer vision or greater gratitude? And here is Sister Beck saying essentially the same thing, fifteen years ago:
A good woman knows that she does not have enough time, energy, or opportunity to take care of all of the people or do all of the worthy things her heart yearns to do. Life is not calm for most women, and each day seems to require the accomplishment of a million things, most of which are important. A good woman must constantly resist alluring and deceptive messages from many sources telling her that she is entitled to more time away from her responsibilities and that she deserves a life of greater ease and independence. But with personal revelation, she can prioritize correctly and navigate this life confidently.
Then she gives such an inspiring vision of how personal revelation can help the busy woman "bear up her burdens with ease":
Revelation can come hour by hour and moment by moment as we do the right things. When women nurture as Christ nurtured, a power and peace can descend to guide when help is needed. For instance, mothers can feel help from the Spirit even when tired, noisy children are clamoring for attention, but they can be distanced from the Spirit if they lose their temper with children. Being in the right places allows us to receive guidance. It requires a conscious effort to diminish distractions, but having the spirit of revelation makes it possible to prevail over opposition and persist in faith through difficult days and essential routine tasks. Personal revelation gives us the understanding of what to do every day to increase faith and personal righteousness, strengthen families and homes, and seek those who need our help. Because personal revelation is a constantly renewable source of strength, it is possible to feel bathed in help even during turbulent times.
I loved the implicit trust she shows in our ability to grow up, leave selfishness behind, and truly be women of God:
Entrance into Relief Society signifies that a woman can be trusted and relied upon to make a significant contribution in the Church. She continues to progress as an individual without receiving much outward credit or praise.
She references the Eliza R. Snow quote I've written about before:
Women should be women and not babies that need petting and correction all the time. I know we like to be appreciated but if we do not get all the appreciation which we think is our due, what matters? We know the Lord has laid high responsibility upon us, and there is not a wish or desire that the Lord has implanted in our hearts in righteousness but will be realized, and the greatest good we can do to ourselves and each other is to refine and cultivate ourselves in everything that is good and ennobling to qualify us for those responsibilities.
and then Sister Beck elaborates:
We know we are successful if we live so that we qualify for, receive, and know how to follow the Spirit. When we have done our very best, we may still experience disappointments, but we will not be disappointed in ourselves. We can feel certain that the Lord is pleased when we feel the Spirit working through us. Peace, joy, and hope are available to those who measure success properly.
I love that so much. It makes me want to straighten my shoulders and refuse to be enticed by the temptation to complain and feel sorry for myself! Why should I? I have the greatest calling in the world, and the means to fulfill it, through the grace of Jesus Christ and the power of God through covenants. If that doesn't bring me "peace, joy, and hope," what will?


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Collisions, planned and unplanned

Nothing particularly exciting has been happening around here. Well, unless you count Gus getting hit by a car.

He really did! I can hardly stand to think about it. Here is what we pieced together. He was riding his little bike. He went back through our alley and started to dart across the street just as a car was coming around a corner. The car couldn't stop in time and it hit poor Gussie. It was an Amazon car (not a van, just a car) and the driver stopped immediately to help Gus. There were some people walking by too, and our neighbors came out to help. Sam drove up, coming home from work, just as everyone was gathered around Gus on the side on the road.
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To do uncommon things for others

This post is part of the General Conference Odyssey. This week covers the Relief Society Session of the October 2009 Conference.
I thought a lot about ministering as I read the talks in this session. There was a lot of emphasis on Visiting Teaching from the speakers, and as I remembered those days it made me miss the clarity of all the sisters just expecting each other to come once a month and share a message. I liked those little messages, and I liked the discussions they led to. I know I could still bring such a message on a ministering visit…but now I feel like it would be weird. Ah, well. I am doing my best to learn how minister in a more Christlike way. Here are some quotes from the various talks about visiting teaching that also apply beautifully to ministering:

A sister in this Church has no other responsibility outside of her family that has the potential to do as much good as does visiting teaching.
and this:
It is our blessing to pray for another sister and receive inspiration as to how the Lord would have us care for one of His daughters.
I have witnessed the same miracle in the lives of many women in different parts of the world. They embrace the gospel, and Relief Society helps them strengthen their faith and grow spiritually by giving them leadership and teaching opportunities. In their service, a new dimension is added to their lives. As they progress spiritually, their sense of belonging, identity, and self-worth increases. They realize that the whole intent of the gospel plan is to provide an opportunity for us to reach our fullest potential.
[Covenant-keeping women] have done and are able to do uncommon things for others and to find joy even when their own unmet needs are great.
I want to be better at ministering. It seems like every time I start to feel real friendship for a sister, my assignment gets switched and I'm back trying to reach out to a stranger again! But even that does, gradually, help me build small relationships which can slowly grow into bigger ones. My current ministering sisters have only visited me once. We talked for 20 minutes or so. And they've dropped off a treat a time or two. So our contact has been very minimal, but even with that, when I see them at church or an activity, I feel a little warm feeling of familiarity and recognition: "Oh! There's Sister Merrill!" I feel like I could go sit by them. They smile at me. It's all on the very most basic level of friendship—we aren't sharing secrets or life advice yet—but it is a start, and a happy start at that. It always surprises me how relatively few contacts it takes to get to that point. To do "uncommon things," we first have to do common things!

Now, of course, our goal is to do more and become more to each other. But in my experience, that does happen naturally as we keep connecting with each other—even through awkward and imperfect connections. Ministering really is such an amazing and inspired opportunity for sisterhood!
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Biscuit in Quebec

 
This is Biscuit. (The bunny—his name is Biscuit. You can say it "Bis-qwee" if you want, because he's a Québecois bunny, but we just call him the American sort of biscuit.)

We bought him right before we came home from Québec. He was on a Christmas tree in a store window—the last bunny on the tree. He only had a hat at that time, but then Daisy thought he looked cold, so for Christmas she crocheted him this little red coat, and now he's warmer and happier.
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Anniversary trip to Quebec

You don't need to read this post. How's that for a way to start off? Of course you don't need to read ANY post, but when I imagine friends and acquaintances sitting down with this, I feel like one of those archetypal travelogue-ers who buttonholes strangers to come watch him flip through the 300 slides in his Hawaiian Vacation slideshow. However, when I envision my future self and children reading through old blog books…I don't want to leave out a single picture. So here we are.
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A keystone in the counteroffensive

This post is part of the General Conference Odyssey. This week covers the Sunday Afternoon Session of the October 2009 Conference.
Wow, this session was full of good talks! There is Elder Holland's classic talk about the Book of Mormon, "Safety for the Soul," the words of which even now I hear ringing in my ears from time to time ("If anyone is foolish enough or misled enough to reject 531 pages of a heretofore unknown text teeming with literary and Semitic complexity without honestly attempting to account for the origin of those pages—especially without accounting for their powerful witness of Jesus Christ and the profound spiritual impact that witness has had on what is now tens of millions of readers—if that is the case, then such a person, elect or otherwise, has been deceived; and if he or she leaves this Church, it must be done by crawling over or under or around the Book of Mormon to make that exit"). I get goosebumps every time I read his powerful testimony:
I hope I have a few years left in my “last days,” but whether I do or do not, I want it absolutely clear when I stand before the judgment bar of God that I declared to the world, in the most straightforward language I could summon, that the Book of Mormon is true, that it came forth the way Joseph said it came forth and was given to bring happiness and hope to the faithful in the travail of the latter days.
So good! 

Another good talk in this session was Elder Renlund's masterpiece "Preserving the Heart's Mighty Change" which just hits so hard coming from a heart surgeon. 

But something that has stayed with me this week is from a third great talk, Elder Christofferson's "Moral Discipline." The part that struck me was this:
We cannot presume that the future will resemble the past—that things and patterns we have relied upon economically, politically, socially will remain as they have been. Perhaps our moral discipline, if we will cultivate it, will have an influence for good and inspire others to pursue the same course. We may thereby have an impact on future trends and events. At a minimum, moral discipline will be of immense help to us as we deal with whatever stresses and challenges may come in a disintegrating society.
Something about that just seemed so sober and full of warning. We can't resume that things and patterns we have relied upon will remain as they have been. We've all seen it—how fast trends in the world can change, how far values can skew from their centers. I start to get terrified for my kids if I let myself dwell on it. How can they possibly make sense of things in a world so full of darkness? How can any teachings be enough to overcome the relentless pull of the culture they're surrounded by? Elder Christofferson's talk keeps emphasizing that we need to help children learn "moral discipline," but beyond saying that parents should teach the gospel with "love and discipline," he doesn't go much into HOW! 

Going back to Elder Holland's Book of Mormon talk, though, I found these words helpful and comforting. Elder Holland mentions those same sobering warnings about the last days, and then tells us how God has prepared help for these very times:
The Savior warned that in the last days even those of the covenant, the very elect, could be deceived by the enemy of truth.…[but] The encouraging thing, of course, is that our Father in Heaven knows all of these latter-day dangers, these troubles of the heart and soul, and has given counsel and protections regarding them. 

In light of that, it has always been significant to me that the Book of Mormon, one of the Lord’s powerful keystones in this counteroffensive against latter-day ills, begins with a great parable of life, an extended allegory of hope versus fear, of light versus darkness, of salvation versus destruction…

Love. Healing. Help. Hope. The power of Christ to counter all troubles in all times—including the end of times. That is the safe harbor God wants for us in personal or public days of despair. That is the message with which the Book of Mormon begins, and that is the message with which it ends, calling all to “come unto Christ, and be perfected in him.”
I know there have been many promises from prophets about the power of the Book of Mormon to help our families. It contains so many good doctrines about how to come closer to Jesus Christ. So of course using its teachings, and reading its words to ourselves and our children, can provide safety and hope even in this "disintegrating society" at "the end of times"! 

I need to remember that for everything Satan throws at us and our children, the Lord has already provided a "counteroffensive"! He doesn't leave us alone to face the Last Days. He will give us all the "love, healing, help, and hope" we need to return to Him, and to help our families return!
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Hour by hour

This post is part of the General Conference Odyssey. This week covers the Sunday Morning Session of the October 2009 Conference.
I really liked Elder Eyring's talk from this conference. Abe sent it to me to study together once while he was on his mission, so I have read it recently, but I notice new things each time I read it.

One quote from this talk is something I've had around for years in a note on my phone, because I feel like I need to read it often:
Pray for the love which allows you to see the good in your companion. Pray for the love that makes weaknesses and mistakes seem small. Pray for the love to make your companion’s joy your own. Pray for the love to want to lessen the load and soften the sorrows of your companion.
Of course I want to just naturally BE this type of person and have this type of love, but sometimes I forget that it doesn't happen automatically for anyone (even very nice people, haha). Anyone who has this sort of love in a relationship has prayed for it and practiced it. I can too. 

I have also loved this for a long time:
Any believing Latter-day Saint is an optimist about what lies ahead for him or her, however difficult the present may be. We believe that through living the gospel of Jesus Christ we can become like the Savior, who is perfect. Considering the attributes of Jesus Christ should quash the pride of the self-satisfied person who thinks he or she has no need to improve. And even the most humble person can take hope in the invitation to become like the Savior.
The quote I have been thinking about most, though, is this one:
Love is the motivating principle by which the Lord leads us along the way towards becoming like Him, our perfect example. Our way of life, hour by hour, must be filled with the love of God and love for others. 
I wonder how, exactly, one sets up a life that, "hour by hour," is filled with the love of God? How can we arrange our days and our weeks so there is room for attention and service? So many parts of life require worrying about ourselves—what will we eat, how will we pay for things, where will we go to find fulfillment? You can quite easily get caught up those things and never notice the people around you at all! Families, of course, help jolt us out of our self-focus. Motherhood is almost guaranteed to do so. It makes you a little more unselfish whether you like it or not! :) But there are still so many ways I could work on that "hour by hour" type of focus on loving God. Can I really remember Him so frequently in my day? Could I set up pictures, habits, routines, reminders that keep me constantly looking outward and bringing me back to Him—even while I'm driving, cleaning, cooking, making phone calls, organizing, keeping track of schedules, and so forth? Interesting to think about.


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